I am amazed at how many people think now that I'm pregnant I welcome advice and stories of pregnancies gone wrong. People also wants to get all up in my uterus and tell me how to handle my pregnancy. Guess what? It's my body, these are my babies, no I don't want to hear about how your friends daughter lost her twins to some rare disease. I love answering questions, if people want to know if we used fertility treatment I will gladly tell them our story because our story is freaking awesome, but I'd much rather not know their own horror stories.
1. Why are you tired? Did you not get enough sleep last night?
Oh I've only doubled my blood supply and I'm growing two tiny humans inside my body while also being too sick to eat. But yeah, lets go with the sleep deprived theory because that makes SOOOO much more sense!!
2. I was pregnant with twins once, but I lost them in the second trimester.
Oh please, I want to hear all about how you lost your twins because that won't make me worried at ALL! Can you please elaborate on the fact that twins are very high risk and that they can die at any time during pregnancy because I really want to know all about the sad and scary part of a twin pregnancy.
3. How did you manage to conceive twins?
Well, when a man and a woman love each other sometimes they choose to show it.....blah blah blah. There is no trick to making twins. God chose to give me twins because for some reason he knows I am strong enough to handle them. I don't know why he gave me twins when I'm an unorganized, worry wort med school wife, but its his plan.
4. I wish I had identical twins!
Okay yes I am thankful for my twins. I love them both and I want them both. But if God would have come to me 14 weeks ago and asked if I wanted twins I would have told him "Heck to the NO". So why does this comment bother me? TWINS ARE HARD PEOPLE!!!!! If you want identical twins then you obviously haven't educated yourself on the risks of identical twin pregnancy. My life right now consists of drinking 3 protein drinks a day, laying on the couch and watching my toddler run wild because I'm not allowed to pick him up, drinking 4 bottles of water a day just to keep the cramps manageable, crying because I don't know what the next ultrasound will bring and researching doctors to perform surgery on the twins just in case we need to do emergency laser surgery on the twins. I'm going to develop a twitch by the end of this pregnancy because of how stressful this has become. I have to stay educated though because monochorionic twins aren't all that common so some doctors don't treat them the way they need to be treated and I need to make sure I am getting the best care possible and leave no stone left unturned. Twins are cute, they are fun, they are a blessing but I do envy the moms of singletons who can relax at 12 weeks and start preparing for a baby while I can't relax until 36 weeks. What gets me through the day is a LOT of prayer because God brought me to this so he is gonna have to get me through it.
5. My cousin has identical twins named John and Lily.
Oh really! Thats cool, I wasn't aware that doctors were now considering a penis and a vagina identical. You learn something new everyday.
6. Your doctor is uneducated if he thinks you can't deliver these twins naturally, you should get a second opinion.
Okay first of all, the scheduled csection was my choice and second of all, if you think monochorionic twins should be delivered naturally, you haven't done enough research. I've already spent 5 weeks researching this, come back to me in 5 weeks and lets see if you still feel that way. My uterus, my babies, my choice!!
7. You cant be feeling like _________(fill in blank with whatever) I didn't feel that way until I was ___weeks with my baby.
Oh really? Everything that you felt at ___ weeks, I will feel twice as fast. Double the amniotic fluid, double the baby, double the placenta, double the belly (seriously have you looked at pics of twin moms before they deliver, shudder)
8. Oh you have a 1 year old...oh your husband is in med school. (long awkward pause) Good Luck!
What! I thought that having twins would make my life EASIER!
9. Geez your moody, what's your problem?
Bet your can't guess who says this to me. lol. Okay ladies who have been pregnant before, do you remember those crazy pregnant mood swings and pregnancy induced rage? Yeah well with twins its worse. Usually I can keep my temper really well but lately I've had so many mood swings that I just say whatever and have no filter.
10. You need to increase your hours at work so you can pay for the twins.
Okay I little background info on this one, I had just gotten done saying that the twins are more important than money. I had been on bedrest for 3 weeks and was attempting to go back to work but was saying that if anymore complications came up I would have to be off work for good.
Yes I need money to pay for the twins, but before I think about paying for the twins I need to actually get them here. The logic here made no sense to me.
Okay so thats all the dumb comments that have been made to me so far. I'm sure I will have more later and will be able to write a part 2. Oh and just wait till the twins are born, I'm sure I will be able to write a book from the comments I get.
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