One thing that has really bugged me for awhile is moms judging other moms. We all have our own parenting styles and while we all know our own personal parenting style is the best, its not our job to push our parenting style on others. I hear people talk about their parenting style that's different than mine and yes I want to say "Are you CRAZY!!!" but instead I keep my mouth shut and judge in silence and then later go to Jared and say "You will never guess what this mom said today". Ha Ha. Okay so I'm not completely innocent with the whole judging thing, but learning to keep my mouth shut and silently judge is a step in the right direction. I am a member of plenty of mommy groups on facebook and honestly I don't know why I even bother with some of them. I'm so tired of hearing people tell moms that vaccinate that they are uneducated and filling their children with harmful chemicals (I'm going to have Jared write a post on why we vaccinate sometime), its so annoying how moms that do vaccinate tell moms that don't that they are going to subject their kids to all these vaccine preventable diseases and how its irresponsible. I hate how moms tell women that don't circumcise that their kids are going to get an infection and their penis will fall off, but my number one most hated judgement of all time is moms that don't circumcise telling moms that do that they are participating in genital mutilation. If anyone dares to tell me that to my face I swear I will lunge at them. Why do women feel like another childs genitals are any business of theirs? Its honestly pretty creepy. I'm all for a good debate on parenting topics, but once the debate turns personal it really turns me off.
One more thing I hate, moms telling other moms that they are uneducated. Sorry crunchy moms, but this is something I hear from you guys more than I hear it from soggy moms. In fact I have never heard it from a soggy mom, but maybe that's because I hang out with more crunchy moms. Just because a mom makes a decision that is different than yours does not mean she is uneducated. I researched every decision I made and guess what, I came up with a different conclusion than most crunchy moms. Does that make the crunchy moms wrong? No. Does that make me wrong? No. It makes us different and that's okay.
So here goes. I am a GOOD mom. I breastfeed my toddler, I coslept till Mason was 1, the TV is my babysitter, we practice CIO (cry it out), Mason lives in his jammies most days, we eat spaghettios and other processed food, we have a schedule and try to stick by it, sometimes Mason stays up till 10 if we have company over, we believe in spanking, we pray with Mason before every meal and bedtime, we pray with Mason when he is crying and we can't get him to stop, we have toys in Masons bedroom, our house is usually a mess, Mason has eaten dog food on a number of occations, I get ultrasounds every chance I get and may get one every week, I'm getting a scheduled csection for these babies, yes I drug my babies for my own personal comfort (epidural), I don't always make Mason wear a jacket when we go outside, we give Mason lots of hugs and kisses, we read to Mason a lot, we bribe our kids with candy, we vaccinate, we circumcise, sometimes we lose our temper and yell, Mason drinks juice every once in awhile, Mason has drank coffee (thank you daddy), we let teenagers watch Mason on occation, we declined to do the heb b vaccine at birth, I will attempt potty training at 18 months, we use disposable diapers, I basically raise Mason on my own, Mason was just dancing to Bon Jovi instead of appropriate kids songs, I will breastfeed my twins but at times they may get formula, and I don't always know where Mason is when we are in the house. But guess what? I AM A GOOD MOM!! I AM A GREAT MOM!! This is what works for my family and even though I'm not perfect, I am super mom! Heck I grow two kids at a time. Superman doesn't even hold a candle to what I can do. :) Sometimes us moms just need to toot our own horns because we are all awesome and don't hear that enough, instead we hear all these judgements. Its just not right.
I AM A ROCKSTAR MOM
*applause*
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